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Geeky Mom » What I Learned This Year


Before I resolve anything I thought I'd reflect a bit on the past year. The great thing about a personal blog is that it allows you to look back.

I wrote about two things more often than anything else: work-life balance and my frustration with lack of faculty technology knowledge and use. It's clear that those things were key factors in my deciding to quit. I had probably been thinking about quitting longer than I was truly conscious of. One thing I learned from that decision was that it was difficult. I spent a lot of time agonizing over how it would affect my family financialy. I shouldn't have. I should have gone with my gut.

Stepping out of my role as a tech support person has allowed me to begin looking at the effects of technology on life and learning more comprehensively and more deeply. In many of the presentations I gave last year, I was already going there, thinking especially about social software and my own scholarship.

I turned 40 this year and my oldest turned 13. That changes your perspective a little. While I certainly don't feel my life is over now that I'm 40, I certainly feel there's no sense in wasting time. Spending time with my kids has become more important as I realize how little time I really have with them. Oddly, I also feel greater feedom to do what I want.

It's been quite a year. I'm looking forward to the next one.

-- Post From My iPhone

Geeky Mom » You Can Never Go Home Again

Technically I'm in the town I grew up in but I'm not in the same house or even in the same area where most of my childhood took place. Home has not been home for me since college when my parents got divorced and the world reordered itself. Most of my friends moved away and their parents too so it's unlikely I'll run into anyone I know. That used to be a regular occurance. The lack of these familiar things don't bother me. In fact, I think if everything were the same I'd find that more disconcerting--like despite all that's happened since I left hadn't made a difference, that no matter how hard we try we're pulled back by some force into our old lives.

I'm thinking about this not just because I'm here but also because the new year is approaching. So much has changed and it's at once refreshing and disorienting. As I look around my town with the new right next to the old and familiar, I think about what is good to keep in my life and what should be torn down like a condemed building. I don't want to become the abandoned eyesore but the strucure that's been maintained by keeping the good parts and replacing those that have outworn their purpose.


-- Post From My iPhone

Geeky Mom » We Made It






After a sprint through the airport, we made the last leg of our flight to our destination. We've had a good night's sleep and coffee. Let the family fun begin!

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Geeky Mom » Travel Adventures






We've been attempting to get somewhere today. It started out with a 4:30 am call telling us our flight was canceled and they couldn't get us on another flight tomorrow morning. We really wanted to get there today so we decided to fly out of Newark. The flight wasn't until later but we were all awake so we decided to go out for breakfast and hit the road. An hour into the trip, Mr. Geeky got tired so we stopped at a rest stop for a nap. Geeky girl also napped.

Once at the airport, we were selected for special screening. Do you know what a pain it is to go through that process with two kids and lots of electronics? Bleh. So now we wait. I hope we arrive eventually.


-- Post From My iPhone

Geeky Mom » Merry Christmas!

The Geeky family is wallowing in the sloth and fullness of the season, which means things have been pretty good. Electronics reigned supreme again this year, with a new iPod and cellphone for Geeky Boy, who's realized the costs of those two habits are going to eat up most of his allowance. Geeky Girl is busy playing new SIMS extensions on our new computer. We finally replaced our almost 8-year-old iMac with a newer one. That was the big gift of the season. Mr. Geeky got a netbook and I got a microphone for podcasting, plus pjs. I have enough pjs now that I can work at home in my pjs fairly regularly. It is teh awesome! There were also some books to go around for everyone, but in general, things were lower key at least in terms of the number of gifts this year. My dad started college funds for the kids as their gift for this year and my mom got them exactly what they wanted off their list--which wasn't much.

I hope everyone had a wonderful day and for those continuing the holdiay season, continued well wishes. Peace and joy to all!

Geeky Mom » What’s Left: Shopping, Cooking, Baking, Oh My

Normally, I'm not running around at the last minute buying stuff. I don't like shopping and so I try to dispense with it as quickly as possible. But this year, thanks to the online shopping experience from hell, I'm running around trying to replace the gift that will not arrive in time for Christmas (still has not shipped!). I went to three different stores yesterday, including the brick and mortar version of the store where said gift is supposed to ship. And, they were out of everything. The traffic was horrible. Everything took longer than I thought. Bleh. So I came up with an alternative and am going to pick it up today.

On the plus side, we made our first batch of cookies yesterday. After school today (yes, the kids still have school), Geeky Girl and I are going to make Grasshopper Pie and fudge. Tonight we'll watch Christmas Vacation, and I can finally relax (at least until it's time to whip up dinner tomorrow night). It's all part of the season.

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Grasshopper Pie Recipe

1 C. chocolate wafer crumbs
1/4 C. sugar
3 T melted butter
1 C heavy whipping cream
2 T milk
3 1/4 C. miniature marshmallows
2 T white creme de cacao
1/4 C. green creme de menthe
1 pt. vanilla ice cream, softened

Combine crumbs, sugar, and butter. Press along sides and bottom of 9 in. pie plate. Chill.

Whip whipping cream. Chill. Melt marshmallows and milk in pan. Cool. Add creme de menthe and creme de cacao to marshmallows. Fold this into whipped cream. Spread layer of ice cream on crumbs. Then spread marshmallow mix on top. Chill in freezer. Set out of freezer about 20 minutes before serving.

Loaded Learning » Breaking The Silence


This semester my blog has been fairly silent. A lot of the silence stems from the embarrassment and anger I felt over losing my campus job at DTLT. Its a long story but because I did not meet satisfactory academic progress for campus employment this past semester; I could not work or receive federal financial aid. So it has been a tough semester financially and my ego took a bruising too.

After losing my job I was forced to reflect on my reasons for being at college. I’ve known for some time now that I have very little interest in academics and have a tough time motivating myself to do work in classes. The question, ” then why am I at college?” has been asked many times. And truthfully I don’t know how to answer that in a non-complicated way. But there are a lot of things I do enjoy at college and I have learned a lot. So for the moment that is just alright.

I learned a lot this semester about doing things you don’t want to do (and the consequence of not doing such things), but I’ll admit that this might be the semester when I learned the least about the course material. I was stressed about getting good enough grades and about being a student that I lost interest in actually learning the material in favor for old methods of playing the system that would help me just get through. As it turns out I didn’t really have the fortitude to go through the motions the whole way through and just ended up sputtering to the end of the semester. Yeah, a terrible idea, I know. So I spent most of the semester feeling like a fraud and any motivation I had to write in this space was just gone.

But now the semester has passed, I have limped across the finish line and have decided to move on. More outlandish thoughts and more nonsense. Maybe I didn’t keep that new years promise to blog everyday, but perhaps in the last few days of 2008 I can overload everyones feed reader and come close to 365. Too much? You decide.

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Geeky Mom » House Envy

A friend and I were talking over the weekend about longing for better houses. A mutual friend is in the process of buying what sounds like to both of us a fabulous place to live. We both have good houses in good locations, but we both also have things we don't like about our houses. And whenever someone we know buys a new house or we visit someone with a great house, we start seeing the flaws in our own houses all the more clearly. Luckily for me, most of the people I socialize with are other faculty who are as priced out of the larger house market as I am. But there's still the occasional playdate visit that sends me into envy again.

I also noted that I have a smaller house than my parents did. Financially, my mother ended up in about the same place as she was when she grew up. My dad fared much better. Me, I'm doing worse (yay for the education industry!). Of course, it would have been difficult to go up from where my dad was--near the top of the income ladder, especially for the small town I grew up in. Every once in a while, I lament that I didn't follow in his footsteps and become a lawyer. Of course, knowing me, I would be a public service lawyer of some kind and still not make any money.

House envy (and probably general envy of other goods) has to have played some role in the current crisis. You watch friends and relatives move up to bigger houses or add on to and improve existing houses and you think, I want to do that. And so you go to the bank and no, you can't quite afford it, but the broker plays on your envy and next thing you know, you're paying more than you can afford for a house that isn't worth as much as it once was. I think it's a pretty easy trap to fall into.

The whole issue of envy is something I've been working on a lot. I think because my lifestyle is somewhat downsized compared to what I grew up with, I've struggled with my frustrations at not being able to have some of the things I had as a kid. At the same time, I contribute some of the relationship issues my parents and I had (have?) to the fact that they were both somewhat obsessed with keeping up with the neighbors and we were in a living space where we could all easily avoid each other. So, I've been focusing on other things: spending time with the family, enjoying the things I do have. I actually want less stuff now, not more. And we've tried to do small things to make our house more enjoyable. Frankly, I often feel lucky to have a roof over my head.

Learning In A Flat World » Am I An Outlier?

I have just finished reading Malcolm Gladwell’s Outliers: The Story of Success (2008). For those who have not yet read it, it is a terrific book. Rather than focusing on intelligence and ambition as cause agents for success, Gladwell instead argues that success is more complex, linked to chance events and accidents of birth. Gladwell makes the case that star athletes tend to be born in the first four months of the year, that software giants were all born around 1955, and that Asian cultures do better at math due to their rice paddy mentality of year-round work. If that does not make sense to you, read the book – I think you will be surprised at the logical case made by Gladwell.

One theme that weaves through the book is that success is a direct result of practice. The Beatles became the band they were due to hours of playtime in Hamburg. Bill Gates and Bill Joy became superstars in programming due to the hours of practice as teens. Asians are better at math simply because they go to school more hours and practice math longer than their American counterparts. In fact, Gladwell places a value on hours of practice. True masters like Mozart or the Beatles or Bill Gates have 10,000 hours of practice as a common factor in their success.

This emphasis on practice got me thinking about our approach to faculty development and web applications like blogging and Twitter. For the past year, several of us in our Center for Teaching Excellence have been swimming in the Web 2.0 stream, immersing ourselves in blogging, Twitter, Yammer, delicious, SlideShare, Ning sites, and the like. Our assumption has been that we needed to “spare” faculty of the time needed to master these applications. By nature of their position and responsibilities, we felt that they were too busy to spend the time we were spending practicing with these applications.

Now I am not so sure. Gladwell would seem to suggest that these hours of “practice’ in blogging and Twitter are exactly what is required for success. In fact, the hours we spent this past year in no way approach the 10,000 hours needed for true mastery. In many ways, after one year we are still neophytes ourselves.

If that is true, it would seem that we need a new approach and a new “sales pitch” to faculty development. What are your thoughts? Is Gladwell on to something? Is success as simple as hard work and practice? If one sees compelling teaching and learning possibilities using web applications - in terms of connections, community, and collaboration - then will faculty be open to practicing with their students as they use these applications? And does one need to put in the hours he suggests?

Be interested in your thoughts. I would not like for those of us using these applications to be the outliers!


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Geeky Mom » It’s A Wonderful Life

I watch this movie every Christmas, sometimes twice. I remember when TNT used to show it every day for the two weeks leading up to Christmas. The first time I saw it all the way through was the Christmas after my sister died. I was staying at my then boyfriend's house. The emotion of it didn't hit me then. I think I was either too cynical or too focused on just the relationship between George and Mary.

Now I can't watch it without crying. Even though I know what happens.

I share the views of this article, which explains that George's life isn't all that wonderful. It's confining and dull, full of those horrible adult responsibilities we all wish we could dispense with in favor of travel and other recreational activities. I've always seen Mr. Geeky in George. The oldest kid, who put off college while his younger brother went immediately after high school. While Mr. Geeky stuck nearby his home town throughout grad school, his brother went off to med school, internship and residency. Now, of course, the tables are turned and Mr. Geeky lives far away in the big city while his brother returned to his home town.

As I get older, I feel the sense of letting go of earlier dreams from my youth. There are certain things that will never happen. And what I get from the movie is the grieving process of that. There's the denial, pain, anger, depression and loneliness (near suicide in the film), and then the post-angel part of the film is the upward swing toward acceptance, ending in the hopeful message that "No man is poor who has friends."

I think what's moving about the film, then, is that I go through all of that with George. Every year, I am reminded of what's really important and quit comparing myself to the Sam Wainwrights of the world. It's a moment of realizing my own shallowness and then letting that shallowness go. The emotion of that and the suddenness of it would make anyone cry.